Is My Child a Victim?

Acknowledging that your child is a victim of bullying is also very difficult, but it is important to confirm your suspicions so that you can give your child the help he needs. The following warning signs may help you determine whether your child is being bullied at school or in the neighborhood.

Consider whether the following traits describe your child:

• Having trouble sleeping
• Irritable or restless
• Eating poorly
• Coming home with unexplained bruises or scratches
• Less communicative
• Secretive about what is going on at school
• Not spending time with friends
• Spending more time alone
• Missing homework assignments
• Skipping school
• Doing poorly in school
• Not very involved with extracurricular activities

Strategies for Teaching Self-Advocacy

• Provide clear strategies for dealing with bullies. Talk to your child about the steps he can take when a peer at school or in the neighborhood is intimidating him.



• Connect with school staff on behalf of your child. Bullying is not an issue to take lightly. Work with teachers and guidance staff in making sure your child is safe and effective when dealing with a bully at school.



• Validate feelings and assist with verbal expression. Your child needs an outlet to deal with the intense feelings associated with being a victim of bullying. Let your child know you are there to support him.



• Seek professional help. Your child's self-esteem may be affected by incidents of bullying. Get the help your child needs to address the tough issues that may be associated with being a victim of bullying.

Intimidation and aggression in school are real. If your child is concerned, you should be too. Whether your child is the bully or the victim, getting involved shows your child that you take this subject seriously. Giving your child the skills she needs to get along with others in positive ways is most effective when schools and families work together. Sometimes your parenting alone is not enough to deal with the difficult issues your child faces. Some warning signs warrant professional attention. While one sign alone may not be cause for concern, a constellation of warning signs may be. It is important to seek the professional advice your child's school can offer especially if your child is having a problem beyond your capabilities.