Kids are interested not just in the class content but also in the instructor, other children in the class, and materials required (i.e. black leotard vs. pink). A class can be an extremely stimulating experience, and most kids will have some good days and some bad. If these classes are in addition to preschool, parents should expect some rougher days. Children at this young age are still making huge changes in their lives as far as sleep requirements (no longer needing naps though tired), growth spurts, cognitive changes, developing peer relationships, and more -- which can all culminate in a tantrum in the middle of class. Absenteeism is expected and understood as children grapple with the normal adjustments in their development.

Parent Participation

Very young children need the reassurance of having loving caregivers close by during classes. Classes for children under three or four will usually require the presence of a parent or another known caregiver. Each child's feelings about a new setting will be unique. Some young children participate by holding a parent's hand and watching others. At the other end, some kids plunge into the activity and never seem to glance over at their parents. But a child knows at all times where the "safety net" is seated and is able to enjoy the activity and learn because he or she feels safe.

Except in the case of support groups or baby gyms, it is important to remember that classes are primarily for the child's benefit. The parent's job is to support the child and not to take over the play or paint the picture for the child. It can be tough not to get involved with the play (who doesn't like the therapeutic feel of play dough?), yet letting the child make decisions about the play will help him or her become more comfortable and confident in the class setting.

Where do I learn about these classes?

Word of mouth is one of the best way to learn about activities for children. Chatting with parents of young children while pushing a child on a swing or waiting in line at the post office is great opportunity to share information. Local neighborhood papers, YMCA's, community centers, preschools, children's clothing stores, toy stores, pediatrician offices and churches and temples are other spots where classes and activities may be advertised. There may even be information about community classes for children that can be accessed on the Internet.

Benefits

The pluses of participating in activities for children are obvious. Children learn in all realms of development. Listening to a note in music class triggers connections in the brain that will be used later when solving math problems. Physical development is supported through experimenting and moving the body in new ways. Working with other kids to play soccer or paint a mural builds on socialization skills and teaches children more about cooperation and teamwork. Cognitively, children learn more about solving problems and that (surprise!) there are other perspectives in addition to their own. There is also an opportunity for children to learn more about other cultures through class content or, even better, by making a friend with someone with a different cultural background.

Over-scheduling

If your child seems tired, easily frustrated, or cranky on the days of the activities, he or she may be over-scheduled. Another clue may be if he is dawdling or downright insistent on not attending the class on a given day. Persistent stomachaches, headaches, and fatigue are signs that a child is feeling stressed and perhaps depressed. An activity once (maybe twice) a week and that lasts no more than one hour is usually manageable and a good benchmark to assess a child's scheduling meter.

Spontaneous Play

Does an organized class prevent the learning that occurs through spontaneous play? Very young children are sponges for learning, whether they're climbing on a play structure or doing a puzzle on the living room floor. A very important skill is learning to occupy time by oneself, and this only can happen when there is extra time in a child's day. Solitary play actually can be the most productive learning period in a child's day. Placing a child in a class before he or she is ready and the stress that ensues may prevent the natural forces of curiosity and discovery that occur. And if in preschool, the stress of the after-school activity may affect behavior in preschool as well.

One or two classes a week may be welcomed activities and help children further their interests in particular areas. It's up to each parent to decide what and how many activities are appropriate. Around ages 4 to 5 years, another milestone is reached as children attend classes without parents. Enjoy these parent-child activities, whether in a baby gym or at home, before your little kids become big kids leading busy, active lives and have to "schedule" time in their days to spend with mom and dad.